Getting through the teenage years is often one of the hardest parts of a person’s entire life. This is a time when emotions run high and changes are taking place at an astronomical rate. Oftentimes, a person doesn’t have the time to catch up with what is happening to them and a lot of big mistakes are likely to happen. The early years of high school and college are also a time where things may not always be as they seem to be on the surface. Those who are largely successful in high school often find that college is a completely different world and the qualities that seemed so important in their earlier years are no longer admired or sought after in the later years. These transitions can be hard for many people and being able to foresee the things that will truly be important when you get older is not always the easiest thing for many people. Even those who can see the future quite clearly will oftentimes be intimidated by their younger peers to get off course and to pursue a less beneficial route over the long term. Later on, we see them suffering for their mistakes but there is little that can be done since life is mainly a training ground for the wise. When you are going through your teen years, one of the wisest things that you can carry with you is an understanding or awareness that things aren’t going to be this way for very long. People around you are all getting older and it happens quite fast so that the things that seemed so extremely important in high school become relatively unimportant later on. A terrible heartbreak or a losing season on the school’s basketball team can often send a teenager into a sense of emotional turmoil unless they are able to see the long term picture of their lives. Even something as terrible as becoming an outcast in high school or getting beat up and humiliated after school is something that eventually can be seen as nothing more than a bad set of circumstances that has very little to do with who you really are inside as a person. Life is much bigger than just the teenage years and yet, these years tend to seem as if they are everything and the newness of emotional experiences as a teen tend to make these illusions seem even more real. It’s best to remember that life goes on for many decades after high school and the people you see around you today will be completely different in only a few short years. They will seem like entirely different people altogether after ten or twenty years. Adults love to say “You haven’t changed a bit!” but the opposite is actually the case when they really look at who they were in their early years. The wisest of the young people will see this and won’t take anything to terribly serious whenever it goes wrong. Set your goals for the long haul and don’t get thrown to far when something doesn’t go quite right. You’ve got your whole life ahead of you and it’s very likely to be impossible for you to comprehend such a large span of time! Teen self help is all about learning to cope with the troubling emotions that are so new and can sometimes overwhelm you and seem like they might just contribute to the end of the world. Looking for the big picture and learning how to move on from a problem is a great ability to have when you are young. It makes it possible to reassess your course as you go and to better determine what you really want to be as you get older. It also helps you to choose your friends more carefully and stand up for who you are. Learning to face your fears and develop a sense of courage is something that can lead you through anything in life and bring you out the other end as a great success. There’s no better time in your life than the teen years and also, quite often, no worse time either. Don’t let the ups and downs overwhelm you too soon as we want you along for the entire ride!
Friday, 23 September 2016
Tuesday, 20 September 2016
How a regular joe made it to the boardroom
The Joe in question isn’t me. It’s a good friend of mine. Born in squalor, raised in need, and oppressed by his neighbors, he fought tooth and nail to survive the slums, enter a good university - and now, runs a multitude of companies. These aren't your run of the mill single proprietorships. These are mid scale corporations with 100 to 500 dedicated employees. Each one radiates the zest he does. We had a long talk over Coke Light last night (yep, beer’s no good for powerhouses) and I discovered we both lived by similar principles. These tenets helped us survive the tumult of life: - You can’t be everything to everybody - Don’t waste time befriending mad dogs. - Admit there is no perfection, but strive for it nonetheless. - Never underestimate the delight of real simplicity in lifestyle. - Avoid unecessary complications. - Consider first what is worth fighting for. - Focus your mind on the pleasant aspects of life. - Concentrate on things that can enhance your situation. - Forget what is irrevocably painful or ugly. - Frustration paralyzes efficiency. Ditch it. - When you feel like a loser, look back at all those shining moments. There’s no such thing as a loser. - Never procrastinate - cut through the chase and get things done. Or you’ll suffer tomorrow. - Realize that men aren’t created equal. That’s a fact. But we all deserve equal opportunities. - There will always be leaders and followers. Not everyone can be president. - There is no cut and dried formula for success. Run for the hills when someone sells you one. and here's one thing I realized after I graduated college: - Success isn't an accident. It's a choice. Let me tell you something. Every action, thought, and emotion you entertain ultimately shapes your future. Since you made it to the end of this article, I know you're committed to creating the good life for yourself. You can begin right now by deciding to make the right choices. Every time.
Monday, 19 September 2016
Depression and the signs of suicide
When you're trying to lead a normal life and yet depression invades your every waking moment, the struggle of trying to pull off that charade can be more difficult than one could ever imagine. Depression and the signs of suicide are unfortunately all too often items that go hand-in-hand. People who do not either live with someone suffering from depression or battle depression themselves absolutely have no idea how dark the hole of depression is. A truly difficult and dark depressive episode can certainly lead the sufferer to contemplating suicide. It gives people a sense of control, particularly when the person battling depression feels as if they have no control over their life anyway. Suicide looks like an easy way out. It can put an end to the feelings of desperation, the feelings of total worthlessness, the overwhelming sadness that invades every pore of your being and the utter hopelessness that fills each waking moment. Depression and signs of suicide are absolutely health concerns that should be taken very seriously. If a friend or loved one that you know is suffering from depression and if you are concerned about the symptoms of suicide there are the few things that you can watch for. Remember to be helpful and supportive by listening and reassuring them of their self worth. But while you are being supportive it is also absolutely imperative that you get your friend or loved one to their healthcare provider immediately. Oftentimes treatments for depression at this level can involve an increase in therapeutic counseling, an adjustment in medication or even the addition of a new medication, or if the depression and signs of suicide are severe enough, hospitalization may be necessary. If your friend or loved one begins to talk about suicide and then starts to give away favorite possessions, this is a serious sign of suicide and it must be dealt with immediately. It indicates that the sufferer has seriously contemplated harming themselves. If they pull away from you and others who love, if they begin to miss work or school, if they no longer care about things that they have always cared about then these are negative signs related to depression and suicide. If you notice that your friend or loved one begins to alter their normal behavior associated with a depressive episode then you should also take action. Sufferers to are seriously considering taking their own lives tend to pull away because they are attempting to make it less difficult on those they care about. Depression and signs of suicide may also include excessive outburst of anger, guilt, changes in eating habits, sexual promiscuity, and alterations in sleep habits. Never ignore depression and signs of suicide. You will never forgive yourself if you ignored the signs and your friend or loved one ends up successfully committing suicide. Do not respond to with inappropriate humor, indifference, or attempts to just cheer the person up. The only correct response is to get professional help.
Saturday, 3 September 2016
Tips for panic attacks part one
One of the best tips for panic attacks you can follow is to learn how to be prepared. At first this may seem difficult to do since most panic attacks strike completely without warning. Unfortunately, this aspect of panic attacks can make the experience of having one even more difficult and frightening. Learning how to be prepared for a panic attack, even when you are not expecting one; however, can help you to come one step closer to dealing with the reality of panic attacks effectively and quickly. One of the first tips for panic attacks and steps in developing your own individualized plan for panic attacks includes taking the time to learn breathing exercises. While it is true that breathing exercises can help stop a panic attack or reduce the symptoms of a panic attack, it is important to note that waiting until you are in the midst of a panic attack is not the time to learn a breathing exercise. In fact, it can make matters worse. Being proactive is the key here. Try learning a simple breathing exercise when you are not feeling anxious and then take the time to practice it every day. It doesn’t take very long, only about 5 minutes and can prove to be very helpful when you are faced with a panic attack. As you practice your breathing exercises you will quite likely find that it will become natural for you to shift your breathing during a panic attack. This can help to reduce anxiety and stress which can eventually reduce the number of panic attacks you experience. Other important tips for panic attacks include learning relaxation exercises. While it may seem as though it would be impossible to relax in the middle of a panic attack it is just as possible to practice relaxation techniques as it is to change your breathing patterns. Like breathing exercises, you will eventually learn to naturally relax your muscles during an attack; thereby reducing the symptoms. Much like breathing techniques; however, it is important not to wait until you are in the middle of an attack to try this treatment method. Begin practicing when you are feeling calm and then work on it a few minutes every day. Tips for panic attacks should also focus on developing a strong social support network. Create a list of people whom you trust and know you can call when you are experiencing a panic attack. Consider family, friends, support group members and your therapist. Write their names and telephone numbers down and them place lists with this information in places where you can find them easily, such as on the refrigerator, in your purse or wallet, in your car and at work. Focus on expanding your support network so that it does not include just one or two people. Learning to be prepared for panic attacks is one of the best tips for panic attacks you can follow as it can actually help you cope with the symptoms of and even reduce the number of attacks you have.
Thursday, 1 September 2016
Anger management hypnosis
As a human being, you are provided with a means to show how you feel by displaying emotion. Aside from elation, fear and sadness, anger is considered to be an intense feeling. In biological terms, anger maybe caused by an interaction with hormones triggering it. In simple terms, people see anger as an intense emotion that can be triggered by external and internal factors. The fast-paced world has made people ignore anger and yet find themselves unnaturally irate about small, insignificant things. Although anger can differ in intensity, it can still be very destructive. An extremely angry person may not be able to control his emotions, causing him to behave, think and speak aggressively. Aggression is said to be the ultimate expression of anger. If you find yourself getting angry over trivial matters, you should consider anger management before you hurt yourself or other people. When managing anger, you would be subjected to different situations where intense feelings would be aroused. By undergoing such situations, you somehow learn to control your angry reactions. Although getting extremely angry is considered to be unhealthy, you should also realize that not getting angry at all is also bad. A healthy balance of anger expression and suppression is recommended. Calming one’s self after an angry episode is very important in managing anger. People who fail to express anger in a healthy way are more likely to become hostile or over-critical of others. Determining whether you are an angry individual requires some psychological testing. The intensity and trigger factors of your anger will be observed. If you think you are feeling too much anger, then you probably are. Accepting that you are an angry person and seeking professional help is the first step towards managing your anger effectively. There are many simple techniques that you can try to avoid being extremely angry. For starters, you should do some breathing exercises to slow down your heart rate. You should also “talk yourself out” of being angry. Some people do yoga or other relaxing exercise to provide them with a calm feeling. Of course, it is important to remember that controlling your anger is not something that can happen overnight. If you think you need professional help, you can go to a reliable Hypnotherapist to help you understand why you are always angry and look for an effective therapy or solution that will help manage your anger.
Wednesday, 31 August 2016
Time management for begginers
Time management is the most important asset one can have these days, with the collapse of traditional values any person can find himself running a few, parallel different lives all at once. I am sure you are not a stranger to this situation, you have too much you need to do, you do not have the time, and you see all your leisure time fade away as you calculate how will you manage to do all these things you must. Not only do most people know this situation, most people know about time management, but fail to understand it correctly and most importantly, fail to comprehend the basic concepts of time management and implement them in their very busy lives. Time management is not about doing too many things in less time but doing right things at right time in right way. How you manage your time is part of your personal agenda. However, there are a few generic steps that help you manage your time in a better way, more so in case of executives and ever-occupied corporate. It take the average adult about 5 years until he or she understands that they had enough of stress and trouble over not getting the work done on time, the laundry on time and all those family activities they have been wishing to do for so long – ever. Time management is the answer to most of these problems and almost anyone can find a way to have a little more time to do more things and enjoy life a whole lot more. The first step towards effective time management, and a regular time management routine is to set clear goals and targets, keeping your mind on the target and goal will assist you in getting where you want . Goal setting makes you more focused and sets a direction for how the tasks should proceed. The goals should be clear, concise, unambiguous. Try and evaluate, realistically, how much time you got and what you want to achieve and than set a plan of getting it. This planning will allow you to “see” time and plan how to use it, you will know how much time you want to allocate to any task and you will also have the ability to keep an eye on your advancement as you go along, taking more time if needed or delaying the goal when realizing it will take more time. Prioritizing is the most important thing in time management, you need to understand how to create an importance level and assign it to all the things in your life, your time management will be as successful and as clear as the priority you set in your life. Important point to be remembered here is that prioritizing does not mean doing only what is important and leaving out on rest, rather it is doing what is important first and then proceeding with the rest. Scheduling and Routine Setting: Scheduling binds your prioritized tasks and goals in a time frame such that you get a productive outcome of your available time. A carefully made schedule motivates you to complete your tasks on time and cuts down on the time bandits by limiting the amount of time you spend on a particular task. These steps outline the basics of effective time management.